Just a quick comment here, Russell's comment had to be approved, but I believe that nous' comment wasn't. So whatever nous did and Russell didn't, that is the key
2025-09-17 22:39:21
Wordpress is still holding up comments in moderation and I think that people have to become a 'subscriber', so they can enter their username and password. I'm not happy about that, but if I just leave it open, I'm worried about a flood of spam.
I'm glad some others have weighed in. I tend, when in a situation that is uncomfortable, to simply back out the way I came in. In fact, one of the reasons I have spent so much time at ObWi has been to be able to talk about politics with people. Being here in Japan offers a measure of separation, and Japanese usually don't talk about politics unless pressed and even then, they will often not get too deeply into the weeds. They (or at least the people I am with) also don't have much in-depth knowledge of particular people or parties, just a larger sense of this party likes this or this spokesperson feels this. Speeches aren't closely parsed, and problems and fights seem to go into a memory hole.
However, I've had a couple situations that parallel yours, though not dealing with politics. My western upbringing wants me to sit them down, try to figure out what the problem is, work to some resolution. However, I never do that, because it never seems to result in a conclusion that is better.
I realize that is probably a big downer and it is no useful advice, and I'm still wrestling with this, especially as I head into retirement and will not have the outlets to meet and talk to people.
Just a quick comment here, Russell's comment had to be approved, but I believe that nous' comment wasn't. So whatever nous did and Russell didn't, that is the key
Wordpress is still holding up comments in moderation and I think that people have to become a 'subscriber', so they can enter their username and password. I'm not happy about that, but if I just leave it open, I'm worried about a flood of spam.
I'm glad some others have weighed in. I tend, when in a situation that is uncomfortable, to simply back out the way I came in. In fact, one of the reasons I have spent so much time at ObWi has been to be able to talk about politics with people. Being here in Japan offers a measure of separation, and Japanese usually don't talk about politics unless pressed and even then, they will often not get too deeply into the weeds. They (or at least the people I am with) also don't have much in-depth knowledge of particular people or parties, just a larger sense of this party likes this or this spokesperson feels this. Speeches aren't closely parsed, and problems and fights seem to go into a memory hole.
However, I've had a couple situations that parallel yours, though not dealing with politics. My western upbringing wants me to sit them down, try to figure out what the problem is, work to some resolution. However, I never do that, because it never seems to result in a conclusion that is better.
I realize that is probably a big downer and it is no useful advice, and I'm still wrestling with this, especially as I head into retirement and will not have the outlets to meet and talk to people.